Meet the mother-son TikTok stars shattering gender norms: “I would never want to clip his wings”

California mother and social media star Dani Schaffer and her 5-year-old son Brody have amassed thousands and thousands of followers throughout TikTok and Instagram for his or her humorous and touching movies documenting Brody rising up in a childhood freed from gender stereotypes.

Their movies of Brody freely dancing, sporting attire and fortunately chatting with his dad and mom defy a long time of restrictive norms — however to Brody, it is merely “having fun,” Dani stated. 

“He is a child and he is just exploring,” Dani Schaffer instructed CBSN on Monday. “I feel like the minute you let go and let your child be, is when they are going to flourish anyway. And I would never want to clip his wings.”

“I just want to be the bridge to get him to where he needs to be, instead of the roadmap, dictating which way to go.”

According to the household web site Parents, kids profit from gender-neutral toys and actions as a result of they promote experimental considering, introduce youngsters to science, technology, engineering, arts and math early, and cut back the reinforcement of gender stereotypes.

Schaffer believes it is crucial to actually hear to how kids really feel, particularly for fogeys confused by norm-defying youngsters like Brody.

“Maybe just asking what does your child like? How could I support you? How could I help you?” she supplied.

And Schaffer, who admits she has grown extra open-minded “after having four children and learning about each of them,” is aware of it might be arduous for fogeys to know what to do.

“I do have hundreds of messages from parents that say ‘I don’t know what to do, I can’t discuss this with my friends. We never discuss this. But my child also likes dance and to explore.’ They are just children at the end of the day,” she stated. 

Some of the issues Brody likes, the toddler fortunately instructed CBSN, are “to dance, and I like to sing to music, and I like to play with dresses and play with my mommy with dolls. And I like to play jumping on the couch.”

“Yeah no. No to the jumping on the couch,” his mom added.

So far in his childhood and exploration, Schaffer stated Brody has encountered “more support than you can imagine” — however is aware of it is perhaps completely different for him coming into kindergarten this year.

“I can’t put him in a bubble. You know, every kid has their own journey. But what if I didn’t allow him to have that journey?” Schaffer stated.

The TikToker later stated that when “99%” of individuals help Brody, “those 1 percenters, I’m not even concerned about, really.”

“All four of my children are different, and it’s important to support that,” she stated.

As for Brody, Schaffer referred to as him a “natural performer.”

“He just likes to perform, and I like to document. I have been documenting my entire life. It is in my blood to document my kids. They were all born with a camera in their face,” she stated, joking. “Brody, pretty much is in the front of the camera and my daughter is really starting to like the camera, too. That is new for her, I would say.”

She stated she helps no matter her kids want to do, on digicam and off, and she or he believes they help one another as nicely.

“They see what goes on with their brother, and they support him, and — in the beginning, they got teased too. Like ‘Your brother this, your brother that.’ And they stand up for him. So it is a beautiful thing.”

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