As L.A. News falls aside, Marika flees her husband’s violent conduct, and the Tur household falls aside, too. But the daddy stays Tur’s unresolved business, cropping as much as demand she pay the cellphone invoice and unloading recent drama when she least expects it. As when she’s overlaying the Boston bombing:
“Do you have a minute? Are you alone? Are you sitting down?”
Yes, Dad, I believed. What is it now?
“Well, I have some big news,” my dad mentioned.
I took one other chew of my cheeseburger, then practically choked to demise.
“I’ve decided to become a woman.”
Bob turns into Hannah, then settles on the identify Zoey. Regarding her previous violence in opposition to her spouse and kids, she blames the sensation of being trapped by a macho information id.
Despite Tur’s efforts to grasp, and Zoey’s self-appointed position as an erratic spokeswoman for the L.G.B.T.Q. neighborhood, the transition doesn’t assist their relationship, and neither do Zoey’s surprisingly retrograde feedback. “I’m already a worse driver,” Zoey claims, after beginning hormones. But it’s Zoey’s demanding that Tur exonerate Bob that sticks in each Tur’s and the reader’s craw. “We need to talk about the violence,” Tur says on one name, attempting to confront Zoey’s previous. She writes, “It felt like my dad was using a get-out-of-gender-free card I didn’t know existed.”
“I already feel different,” Zoey replies. “My female brain is getting softer and more emotional. I’m filled with calm and love.” Eventually, Zoey says, “Bob Tur is dead.”
“The stuff Bob Tur did isn’t dead,” Katy Tur tries to elucidate. “You yelled. You hit. You caused pain.”
“Who did I hit?”
“All of us,” she says. “You even kicked the dog.” But Zoey denies it even tougher.
As Tur’s fame grows, Zoey worsens her assaults in opposition to her daughter, telling media shops she is transphobic and unsupportive as a result of, Zoey says, supporting the L.G.B.T.Q. neighborhood would “hurt her career.” By Tur’s telling, none of this seems to be true; in actual fact, she appears affected person, given Zoey’s provocations. She’s cautious in utilizing Zoey’s identify and the pronoun “her” from the second Zoey calls her to debate her transition, whereas persevering with to think about her a father (“I’m still Dad,” Zoey affirms).